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Hey thanks for clicking on the parents notes! It is my goal as a youth pastor to partner with parents in helping disciple their student. One of the resources that we wanted to make available to you is Parent Notes. What are parent notes you ask? Parent notes are questions from each message that will help you spark convo with your student. Go thru and choose 3 questions each week that you can ask your student about the message on Wednesday in a casual convo. Why only 3 questions??? Because students have an attention span of a gold fish which is about 3 seconds. If you have ever tried asking your student about youth group its probably gone something like so how was youth group? Their response it was good. Our goal is to put questions in your hand each week to ask your student in casual conversation so it’s not “awkward” I hope you find this resource valuable! – Nate

May 27th 2015

Last nights Hot Topics text in discussion was on Dating/Relationships/Porn/Homosexuality. We gave them a chance to text in any questions on these topics and I’d answer the questions from what the Bible has to say on these issues. Here are some questions that you can use to have a discussion from last nights Hot Topic.

  • What are you thoughts on middle/high school relationships?
  • Do you think they are healthy or unhealthy? Why
  • How do people go about choosing who to date and who not to date?
  • What kind of boundaries would you set in a relationship?
  • Is it ok to date someone who is a non christian? Why or Why not?
  • Read 2 Corinthians 6:14 together
  • What do you think it means to be unequally yoked?
  • Is there a lot of peer pressure in your school or among your friends to be sexually activate?
  • What does the Bible say about purity?
  • Does purity only include sex?
  • How do you define purity? to be without mixture
  • How far is to far? (if you have to ask that question you’ve gone too far! its like asking how close can i get before falling off the cliff or touching the stove before I can get burnt)
  • Do you think porn is ok to watch?
  • Can you see any reasons why it wouldnt be ok? it promotes human trafficking, creates a false sense of relationship essentially bought sex. 
  • If you had a daughter would you want someone looking at her like that?
  • Do you have friends or know people at school that are gay?
  • What are your thoughts about the homosexual movement? Washington legalizing gay marriage, people experimenting with being bi/gay? Do you feel homosexuality is ok or not ok?
  • How does God feel about people who are Gay?
  • What does the Bible say about homosexuality? Gen 2:24, Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9
  • Do you agree with our rules when it comes to dating?
  • Can we set you up with porn accountability?

May 20th 2015

  • What did you guys discuss last night at Point Break? Friends/Identity
  • Who do you sit with at lunch?
  • Who would you say is your best friend?
  • Which of your friends do you think I would like the most? Why?
  • Why is that person your best friend?
  • How do you choose friends? or does friendship just happen?
  • What makes a “good” friend?
  • Have you ever felt like you didn’t really have any “friends”?
  • Are your friends the influencer’s, do you influence them more, or is it mutual?
  • Is any of your friends going through a rough time right now? Is there anything we can do to help them?
  • Have you tried sharing your faith with your friends? If so how did they respond?
  • What do you think the Bible means when it says Bad company corrupts good character 1 Corinthians 15:33
  • Is there anyone in your life that you would consider bad company?
  • Do you agree with the statement friends can be hazardous to your health?
  • How do friends determine the direction and quality of your life?
  • Do any of your friends struggle with cutting/depression/suicide? How do you talk to them about it?
  • What 5 words best describe you?
  • Do you like who you are?
  • What is one thing that you wish you could change about you? Why do you feel that you would want to change that about you?
  • If you could grow up to be famous, what would you want to be famous for?
  • Do you know any scriptures of what the Bible has to say when it talks about friends?1Cor. 15:33, Genesis 2:18, Proverbs 17:17
  • What does the Bible say when it comes to identity and understanding who you are?  Jeremiah 1:5, Jeremiah 29:11-13, Genesis 1:27

May 13th 2015

  • Which parent do you like better me or your dad? Just kidding….figured that would help break the ice.
  • What was last nights topic that you guys discussed? PARENTS 
  • Do you feel we have a strong relationship and that you can talk to me about anything?
  • Do you feel that I support you when you make decisions?
  • Why do parents discipline their kids?
  • Read Ephesians 6:1-4 together…What does the Bible mean when it says honor your mother and father?
  • Do you understand that I discipline you not because I am mad at you but because I love you?
  • What are some ways that we could strengthen or relationship with each other?
  • Can you and I set up a time to read the Bible and Prayer together?
  • Can you and I set up a day once a week where we get together?
  • What friends parent do you think is really cool?
  • Why do you think their parent is really cool?

 

May 6th 2015

  • What do you think of social media?
  • Why has social media become such a big craze in our culture?
  • Why do you use social media?
  • How often do people really use social media to connect with other people?
  • Have you ever hung out with someone that is always on there phone? How did that make you feel?
  • What could be some wrong ways that people have used social media?
  • What are some positive things brought about by social media?  it can enhance community
  • Do you see any problems caused by social media? people feeling valued by how many likes they get on a photo, people complaining on facebook, saying stuff and thinking there is no consequences because its social media, easier to connect with the wrong crowd, time waster, a platform to boast about yourself, facebook stalk people by just browsing thru their newfeeds and never really connecting with people
  • Do you feel valued by the number of likes we have when you post a photo or a comment? Why does it make us feel better that tons of people like our photo or comment?
  • Have you seen people post inappropriate things on social media? Why do people feel they can post things on social media and have no consequences?
  • Are there things on your social media account that probably should be taken off?
  • How much time do you think you spend on social media a day?
  • Have you ever opened up your Facebook and realized why did I just do that?
  • Why is social media something we can go to when were “bored”
  • Do you feel the need to respond to text messages/Facebook posts right away?
  • How do you plan to use social media differently?
  • Can you think of a Bible verse that would apply to social media?
    • 1 Corinthians 10:23
    • Matthew 7:1-5
    • Psalms 19:4
    • 1 Corinthians 15:33
    • 1 Timothy 6:6
    • Ephesians 5:16
    • Exodus 20:3
    • James 4:10

April 29th 2015

  • Who was an influential person in your life that talked to you about Jesus and helped you make the decision to follow Christ?
  • Would you want someone to say that you are part of their story?
  • Who is someone that you have recently talked about your faith with?
  • Do you have friends that are atheists, agnostic, Buddhists or other religions? How do you talk with them about your faith?
  • Is sharing your faith with someone hard or easy?
  • What is the hardest part of sharing your faith?
  • If others don’t mind pushing their views on you, then why should it matter if you politely share what you believe?
  • What does it mean to share the Gospel?  here is a great acronym for the gospel
    • God created us to be in relationship with him
    • Our sins separated us from him
    • Sins cannot be removed by good deeds
    • Paying the price for our sins Jesus died on the cross and rose again. 
    • Everybody who believes in him will have eternal life
    • Life with Jesus starts now and is forever. 
  • Why has our main outreach tool become hey come to church with me rather than sharing the Gospel?
  • Is there a one size fits all method to sharing your faith or is it unique with each individual?
  • How do you deal with the evolution unit in your Biology class?
  • Read Matthew 28:19 together what does it look like to “Go”
  • Who are you praying for to come to know Jesus?
  • Who has once had faith and walked away? Are you chasing after them letting them know you care about them?